The world of this guy...part three A - Tokyo,Month 1

You must be wondering,where is part two?
Well...Part two will come,and bring the thoughts between one and three...
No is the time for Three:
When i was a kid, i was highly impressed by Chinese and Japanese culture It was around 1993-4, I loved painting Japanese/Chinese architecture writing letters from both cultures.Many years has passed since then and I still love them,only difference is now I am living in Japan to experience them in first hand.


But today I am thinking about how not wow.
How did a country who lost a major,lost two cities in a nuclear attack.War achieved all this?
People thinks that it is their time management and work culture...NO.
I realized this living among the Japanese people in Tokyo that they achieved all this because of their mentality and attitude..
Few major points I realized about them,
1. Japanese people dont blame other people for mistakes,they take the blame to them even if it is not thers sometime and resolve it on their own responsibility.
2. No matter how modern they become,unlike Indians they love their culture and never give up their traditional value
3.Japanese people help others. They dont have Indian"crab mentality"to bring anyone down.
  Most of them does not understand English but they will always try to help you,specially people above 50 are extremely good....Old people are gold. Personal Experience!!! :)
4.They have sense of responsibility,they dont think that "no one is doing this why should I?"..that why streets are so clean.I have seen people who walks with their dog carries an extra plastic bag in case the dog decides to clear the belly..
5. They have control over their emotions and thinks logically and never puts their nose in others business.
This is as far as i understand Japs in one month and understood why it will take india forever to get to the same level.

the world of this guy... part one :the people.

Pune,2012 or 13 i dont exactly remember,...i was returning from film institute around 11pm.The road was hilly and it is really hard to ride even a bicycle while going up in the road.One handicapped guy was  riding his vehicle(for those who dont have legs) and trying to cross the road slowly,it was hard. I asked him, can i help?he directly said NO.
Pune,2012 christmas,i went to meet someone.I remember the day because when i was walking in the road,I saw one homeless guy was cooking something and his white dog was there keeping him company.
2013,I remember my 2nd visit in mumbai. Roaming around and looking at expansive cars and buildings in one of the most expansive part of India I thought it would be the memorable night...i did not remember anything special from the shining of wealth...but I remember one girl. While i was returning from applying various companies...tired but happy,I saw her. She is probably related to the shopkeeper of the small shop where she was sitting.It was almost closing time...light was moderate.She was studying outside the shop in the streetlight.A schoolgirl is trying to reach the heights.One rememberable moment.
I love the smiles of those who is struggling to survive one more day..because it is real. We worry about the money we make....We treat those who works in a lower position in our office as they are inferiors.My grandpa studied communism,he worked for farmers and workers,he told me most valuable thing of my life,do not treat anyone as inferior because no one is.
I see students who refused to study because there is no AC,I grew up without Air conditioning machine and i still live without it when i am not in office.I see people who dont want to eat because there is something dusty nearby,I see people who uses his/her slightly dis-functioned body part to get a handicapped status so that getting a job will be easy..We live in two worlds and i am sure that the heaven is not in the wealthy part unless hard earned,it is in the true smiles and happiness of hard working people. Yes india is full of poor and hungry people....go the the slums,you will see real happiness. Look at those workers sleep peacefully near the street...how many rich people gets that peace in their sleep?
Why India "was" a great country once? because even the kings lived a life of a common men in their guru's ashram,serving their master so that they understand the pain of a common men before they become a king.
we can find loads of true human beings in the streets where they survive. Why those tears of happiness and sorrow mater? because they not some chemical combination,they are liquid emotion.
What are we? we are nothing but some organic matter if we dont consider the soul or energy inside us.You think you are above someone,think again...once dead and you are no less than a rock.
Giving away money is not always help...we must appreciate people no matter what position they are. In my office,when i address the security guard or the janitor with respect they have "the smile" and i know they deserve it.I am not trying to prove anything here about me,i am trying to tell that happiness is people,help them when u can,you will know what i am talking about. Think about the feeling that time when you give your sit in a bus/train to some old person. I love the get that feeling all my life...
This is my first post after a long time.I am counting to see more true smiles in people. more happiness shared. Happy 2015 to all. 

Life....Smile

Life is too short...Notice people on streets,who has a smile...you will find almost none,unless they are drunk or having fun with friends...Have you ever thought why we don't see one single person who is alone has a smile...(not those wh0 is talking over a phone)..
I Feel surprised,people never try to understand and solve the problem,rather they keep on doing what they does.People might say my life is good...then why don't you smile for no reason ?.
I know that people's opinion about me does not change what I am.Smiling for no reason might make you a weird one...but why do you care?

I might not consider myself as an emotional person...but i was once.So lets think the reasons...

The most powerful reason is influence....He is doing this,enjoying this,and he is happy..so i should do this too.i have meet many people who shows that he/she is happy,but when they pour their inside out, you will know,they are far away from happy,what they are doing is just to overcome the storm inside.

One more reason is society and what they might think.We are AFRAID,we dont do what we love to do...instead,we do what society considers as good.Society is a magnet,it wont let you move forward unless you change your polarity.So obviously no smile.

Negative attitude is the root of an anti-smile face.thinking about negative results,feeling jealous,fear,bad things about yourself is definitely the reason for the fake smile in your face.

Proud feeling might leave you no smile...be careful. There is a huge difference between self obsession and self love.I encourage you to appreciate yourself,not feel yourself above everyone.Love yourself,love people.Proud people are often lonely people even if there are many around.Result?....of course no smile.

I know the society..people are negative,but everyone wants happiness,getting drunk and laugh like a monster is temporary...feel the good things in you,appreciate the good people around you,be on their side.help unconditionally...talk positive about people,for people.and at the end don't think what wrote is hard to do..because that you think is hard or easy,is true in both cases.

I am writing this because i feel this way,so be happy and positive about life...and most importantly, SMILE :)

Love to relationship....a long way...

Valentines day....a day that reminds us the word "Love"....Where did it go?..yeah the feeling..the honesty...the sincerity?..."Love is a game in which one always cheats." said by Honore de Balzac. But Saint Augustine said that Love is the beauty of the soul. Now a days... Love is hanging between good and bad...it seems like Love is confused...we are confused.I am not going through the history of  saint valentine...but as we are here...we mostly recognize 14th Feb. as a day of love...were people shows love by money....if we cant bring anything nice to someone we love...how can we celebrate v-day? ..thats the basic concept today.When i travel..i see lots of couples...full of love(?)...i see break-ups...huge fights...bad endings as well.I see that lust is taking over Love's home...where things rarely go well...somewhere somehow..someone gets hurt.There are good people who truly believe is love...but many of them end up questioning"why" their love has failed?....if we look around closely....there is very few constant relationships.This happens because people decides a relationship on the basis of  attraction or infatuation..which the mistake as love..because it feels good. Love does not come just like this...love gradually happens. Cheating in love is not a crime in law...so many people are not afraid of this.I see girls n guys cheating their girlfriend/boyfriends everyday....they dont even feel bad later. Back to v-day....what happens in this day ?... some common answers are " we are going out somewhere special"...."I am buying something special for her" ...if someone asks me i can do that any day..why v-day? ....is that proof of love if we do there things on v-day ? Today valentine day exist on a piece of chocolate...or a good restaurant..or a expensive gift. sharing of true feelings is replaced by sharing of money and pleasure which is obviously not spiritual.people always keep options in love(?)..on the basis of  job...wealth or look.I have been to many places...meet many people,now a days....most guys and girls are not ready for a real relationship...,Pleasure is the only feeling the want more than anything in a relationship...and i am not talking about pleasure of mind.Guys decide from a girl's look...how she dresses...which is a wrong thing,girls falls for sweet words or instant charm..Till now almost all guys i have meet told me that they dont want to be serious with one girl..first they want to enjoy...other things comes later..if they come..probably girls thinks the same way..or probably the don't...But one commonly used line guys now a days is " there are plenty of fish in the water...don't worry"...as if having a true relationship is a profession like fishing...on the other hand girls uses"all men are dogs.." ..is if they knows all of them.Many grows up watching movies..expecting love will happen in filmy way....if not they will approach in filmy way....surprisingly this idea from idiot box works sometime...and people makes fool of themselves.
 So all these roadblocks are there in between love to a true relationship...What i wrote are not from my imagination....they are actual story,actual lines i have heard from people...and basically most are negative.In this case,what should one person do if he truly loves or wants to love someone and have a permanent relationship? If someone already loves with trust someone...he/she should be faithful...if the other person does not care...someday,someone will eventually come who actually cares...and for those who wants true love...,stop looking,stop searching...just have faith.
Just remember Murphy's Law : Nice guys(girls) finish last....(I think he was being diplomatic...) but be positive.
                                                                     Cheers  :)

 

we and our mask..

So...back to blog....could not say away for long...just because some negative events..Anyway, So we and our mask is the bubble of thought that occurred to me today while thinking about some people. This is the thing...people don't really change,the just upgrade themselves,hides their real self or shows their real self ,and we think.."hey..he/she has changed"...we actually never did know that person.I understand people...at least some people.I am came in touch with one person...who is actually "good" ...but that person created a mask of a different person to hide the real self, that mask can protect that person from many negative things...but can't protect from own self.I closely observed that person....and the eyes tells a different story. A very soft and kind hearted person when acts tough,dont caring just because the society is negative in some matters...that person becomes someone who ignores many things,even some good things that are in the doorstep. First i thought that that person is rude and heartless....I knew that i was wrong when i saw the eyes. A mask...thats all..A person, who loves to study,write and spend time with pets when dresses different , mixes up with friends not trying to know if that is really a friend or not and goes to places where we temporarily loss ourselves is a sign of the load of a mask which needs a relief sometime. A person who never shows that he/she cries and think nothing is actually someone who should not wear a mask.But world is cruel,some incidents are like this that makes us freeze some of our own self. I have seen people who acts,..i mean literally acts as a different person...just to show that they are able to survive the society.Today we act...tomorrow we act...but what about the day when the masks becomes too heavy to bear ? I guess we don't think about this things much...we just think if we have enough money in future or not. But I feel bad about seeing good people turning into masks and too afraid to come out of it...but thats the way it has to be...they think...and they don't want to change that until it is too late. We never loose ourselves...anything that is true about us,in us...it can be our own self....true love...true friendship...anything.Putting temporary wall between our true self and a mask is not worth anything...be positive...and let the good come :) 

moments.... part 1

I am writing this...but there are people out there who feels the same....and needs to feel the same.....
i walk alone a lot.....i talk to myself in mind.......ask questions.... analyze things.....look for answers.. I remember some moments....i remember one moment  and many like this where i had nothing to think about....i got tired of asking questions....Sometime I stand somewhere...looking at the surroundings where, someone is enjoying life with things that eventually harms them back....some are romancing where probably they end up breaking up one day....some are minding their own business.....some are doing nothing....some are frustrated .... some are fighting...and some are probably looking at everything and thinking like me....I am away from home....only way my family knows about me is by phone. I think sometime...if ... I receive a sudden death(not expecting any right now).....what is the situation there?...only change that happens is the road may receive certain color,....a little "what happened there?" questioning and  the situation is back to as it was before me. I think deeply....the only people who gets hurt is my parents. No one cares....no one wants to care....no one dares to care....I may receive " he was a good guy" no matter how bad i was...unless i am like hitlar. Our existence is two years max for family(except parents)....2 months maximum for normal friends.....2 days maximum for the people who knew us and 2 hours max for the people who only saw us after/just before we die.. ...I ask myself...Why we fight.?..or take out our ego on someone? ..Why we are proud?.... When we die...who is going to care? ...No one except 2-3 people.We are so small in this huge world...we are like ants....and we have egos like elephants..I laugh inside my mind....seeing people becoming selfish....stuck on silly ideas....and feel bad too..because some of them are people whom i care about.Ask questions to yourself....who is your real well wisher? 1) the one who calls you only when he/she needs you....or 2)the one who calls you for no reason just to ask you how you are doing?....1) the one who talks to you when he/she needs some time pass or good time or 2) the one who wants to know whats bothering you inside? ...Today Both second options are almost invalid...the one who calls you for no reason  is usually the irritating person.....and both option 1)s are nice friends. The world around us becoming so bad that it almost ends the positive attitude. Fun life becomes priority and Fair and clean life becomes old fashioned .Still.. the end, we are all Ash or soil....and eventually flow with air or mud. "I have no time....i am busy with work"....this two lines means "I have no time for you"...but when you are needed...The "busy with work" person will call you many times in their "no time" schedule.There are some people...probably very few who will call or text you in their busy schedule...and they will probably never call you in your busy schedule for their interest unless its urgent...and they have no choice.I lost people because of me...specially one person who used to care...i can give reason that i too had bad moments on that time...but today..i know..that was just stupidity. I know we will keep meeting people....keep having better moments....but i know now...we will never meet those or anyone like those people who really cared. Family, Love , Friendship ....everything is eventually family if they are true....and nothing is ever like family.They will look at infinity after I am long gone and think..."my name...." and somewhere in the sky (or hell) i will smile....know that I achieved something.

preparation of death....

There is life and there is death.....Happiness and sorrow is related to both...When i was born...people were happy...when some bad people dies..people are happy too. Today...i give some thoughts about the journey...Till the day when i was born...what did i do....what did i actually lost....what did i actually gain.We Celebrate our birthday...and most of us hates ourselves(not me....i love me)...When people are negative about themselves thats the hate for themselves..Then why we are grateful for our birthday?most of the time of our life....what do we actually do? some fools around....some goes crazy for money.....some try to just live the life....and some wants to make their name live. I have heard and felt extreme negativity about everything I truly love from the surroundings....it can be a career...or someone i love....but there is always negativity.But i am always positive about those i want from heart....because i know that i am right.That is possible that most among many things fails thats why i decide only few things and stick with it till the end.The day we were born...till the day we die...do we actually die once? In the journey we die more than once....first death starts with the pure soul within us...then it continues.Of course we dont want to be a child...but do we realize that how happy a child is ?...we make this life complex ourselves only.Simple things of life is complex now a day because we think too much....too much about future...specially  the lines with "what if"...but we can make the future like we want...instead we let it come...not knowing what it brings along with it. I dont believe in blind future...i know my future...at least i know the overall summery.In between lots can happen....i will be positive no matter what happens.Life is a fight and we should not fight it like a war...if we do...revenge...grudge...hate..will come.I compete with myself...and the unknown who is getting better everyday. I can spend my birthday alone by not feeling lonely....just because i accept loneliness. No matter how many people left me....i will be positive with what i have...and will have.One of my most respected teacher said...."I call my life is preparation for death"...i agree..because once we die in general...there will be no one to remember us after a year of death.All our attitude...proud will either be Reduce to ashes or soil. Till the day when i was born...i dont want to be just ash or soil...There is no meaning of celebrating our birthday if we can make it rememberable.I know if i die today....no one will remember me after 2 months.So i plan to die with a boom...so i am taking my time.There is always someone special to count on....my day is not just arrived for that yet...so i am keeping myself positive. Frankly....i never feel like celebrating my birthday.....but i will...with both special goal and person with me..one day.And that day is coming :)
Note: This isn't about my life....this can be anyone's life...which depends on the the things the choose for their life.  

"friend"...Shit Happens...

Ook people...I am back to blog...topic is not friendship,...the word "friend" only. "Friend "is the most common word among youngsters..That is my friend....we are friends....they are my friend....just friend....mutual friend...best friend and blah blah...overall the word "friend" is like shit...we can see it everywhere if we want....and  .."shit happens". Look at daily life....we meet someone...we talked for less than a hour and boom!...we are friends...random people drink together....and they are friends...it is a different thing that they may not know each other when they get back to their normal state.We unknowingly message someone...someone replies...we reply back...and ..zoom!...we are Friends!!..X:. "Hey..that guy,....he is my friend..."Y:"O..you know him?...i think he needs help...."X: "Aah...actually we are not that close...we just meet once"...and we escape the situation...which is very normal thing now a days...We can hear the following line often.."if you get in trouble...i dont know you" and you can actually expect that from your friends....Yeah!...shit happens.I think Need is cause of  the word Friend now a days...I need something from you....i go to you...show you how good friends we are...after my work is done...I am invisible men...you do the same someone too...so it is a mutual understanding.If some friend calls me after long time i assume that he/she needs something from me...and i am never wrong.We dont take a beggar as a friend..do we?..because he always have needs...and cant even help us in return. The word Friend is like licence...we can use it to fulfill our needs...do business...have fun....So it is needed...for every shit.We love to make influential and powerful friends....we can run all our life if we have to to keep that friendship.X:"hey do you remember me?...i am your friend"...Rich and powerful person(R&PP): "i dont remember you....". X:" i stopped a fly from felling in your food.....you said thanks...remember ?" ..."Hey that guy over there...the one with the rolex...is my friend....he said hi to me in the airport 8 years ago.."... "Shit!!!!"No matter how short is the contact...a R&PP is always our friend..even if they are not our friend...they are our friend...and we always run after them because we know that they are the friends with benefits ..i have seen live example of literally running.But,...."Hey...isn't that...the one who is in the news for murder..is your friend..".then we say.."naaaaaah....he just said hi once....we were never friends.".And one most common word..."best friend"..or "bf"...which is as cheap as blue film now a days....."my best friends"....do you even know what best friend means?..But i am glad that some people actually knows...but still most are made for get used only." Friend word is a great weapon for girls....this way they can keep many options for them...when they needs something...guys who are capable to help are their best friends....they can almost cry in their shoulder to get their job done.If they see someone getting serious...and they have better options Or if anyone asks....they just say.."O..him?...he is "just friend"....Just friend?...wtf?....Just friend" is used by girls more than anyone.Girls call you(any guy) "friend"...try to release her tension on you...and her boyfriend is busy earning money for her without the tension he should share.so...yeah...Shit happens. .This does not means that guys are mineral water...they are no less...they just normally does that with guys.So lets meet people..shake hands and be friends....the word Friend was created for us only...we dont need "why"...as long as we can use it for our greater benefit. The word Friend is for sale now...like the words Love....honesty etc...It is a good thing that real friendship still exists among animals...but the hell with that..we are not animals.So get ready and make friends and have fun....because when one go away another one comes..world is a sea and there are plenty of fish..and of course this will continue till we die alone..at least before we die...we will realize...:shit happened...now it is too late.Friendship has become friendshit slowly..and we cant do anything about it...
Note: Don't follow what I wrote if you have a little respect for friendship left within you.....I see this situations everyday....and i know i stopped feeling bad about it....

2013...So what ?..

2013 has come....if i review my loss and gain...i have gained much...lose less.Lots of positive things last year...few negative things with positive results some of which will come later.What will be my new years resolution ? well....funny thing is..most common resolutions are leaving smoking...drinking...etc etc.Mine is none of them...I will continue to my goal that i decided in 2009 with few decisions i made in past.I decided to be positive..and be respectful towards others feelings...be sincere and honest.In most part i have succeed...in some areas situations never let me.I was never selfish....but now i will try to be a little selfish because every one is selfish and no one cares but my family if i live or die...this is the truth for everyone...don't wait to realize it till it is too late.People may think that I am being negative..but knowing the truth then be positive is the best option....or we may get hurt.In 2012,according to mayans...the world ends.Maybe the meant something else...not literally this world.In my case one of my world had ended.A side of my life is permanently closed today....which of course breaks my heart because this means my permanent cut-off from a side of life.I will always trust universe..because what is happening..is for something good only...just i don't see it right now.2013....my life changes this year....and i know i did not left anything which let me realize it is too late.I did everything i could...being honest and sincere...so no regrets.One question always remains..."why this has to be always me?" ....but i guess i will get the answer sooner or later...till then,be myself...and be awesome.    

Bubbles......TOO LATE..

  I remember the day i was sitting with a friend and discussing many things....it was Oct 2012.One topic came up...I have to give him credits for that because he brought that up.
Lets go back to our childhood....i remember elders played with little kids one common game."catch the finger". They used to tell us showing one of their moving finger that "this is a fish, catch it little one"..when we try to catch it they hid the finger and we catch a different finger..then they used to say"too late....you caught a frog".I remember this now and think.....how big that "Too Late" got now.I see it everywhere now a days...but the bad thing about it is when "Too Late" happens...its really too late to do anything about it.
  Most regret comes from relationships ...specially friendship and love,as a result of "too late".I felt it badly when i went home.In my life there will be no more"too late"...i found its cure for me....I saw it in others.Examples ? ..sure...
 Three friends....from childhood they studied together till 10th standard...they lives in the same area...they used to discuss and share everything......till one of them got into relationship.I admit...when you are in a relationship you have to give more preference to the person you are in relationship with..because he/she will be..or from today's point of view...may be your life partner.But none of this does not means that your friends has no value in your life anymore.So that friend leaves his close friends who happens to be his well-wishers...and limits their connection to"hi-hello-bye"level..and of course he also did some un-friendly things to them.His friends got hurt...lost their feelings for him after they tried to repair the damage.That two friends are my friends too...one told me "I used to be his best buddy....and he did this to me,when he will need me one day...it will be too late for him"
 And in case of love...same thing happens.
It is not easy to gain  unconditional feelings...but easy to loose...and when lost it is definitely too late.
We may get a different bus if we miss one...we may get a different job if you miss one because of too late...but we will never get a true friend or love if we loose one.
Whatever the reason is...always analyze every reason till you fell like keeping out or kicking out someone from your life, from your heart. If we leave people because of look...or wealth...we will make total fool of ourselves. So what are you thinking? ....of not thinking anything...think before it is too late.
Peace and love :)  <3